big_gay_bears (big_gay_bears) wrote in boys_and_girls,

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Whats going on :(

Hey guys....I just need some advice, not sure where to turn........

I met a guy about 6 weeks ago on plenty of fish. We got chatting and discovered we lived in the same village, and i was about to start the same place of work as him (its a big local company with over 500 staff)....and it seemed like it was meant to be. Anyway we hit it off right away, meeting up a lot and in the short space of a month I totally fell for him...he was my perfect guy. Then one day he tells me he went to see his ex as a friend. But then he started acting really distant, and a week later he tells me he's still in love with her. I was obviously gutted but then 3 days later hes back on plenty of fish....and I dont know what to make of it. Is he lying? Or did he just go off me? I wasnt sure if something happened with his ex and he felt guilty, so he ended it because of that. I know the only way is to really ask him, but I dont want him to know how upset i still am....I dont know what to think!!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated :( 
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I think you should let him know that you are upset about it, rather, that you're upset you feel like he lead you on. Tell him you'd like to talk about it and work it out. He might have a reason. He might just leave too. If he leaves, then he wasn't worth it in the first place.
all i can say is that whats worse upsetting him or him knowing you are upset or asking yourself what if.... i know that being honest with myself and others usually works out for the best....

just my advice
Sounds like he may be telling the truth, maybe he truly does ahave feelings for his ex or he is lying about it...which means just possibly he is just not that into you... and would rather make up excuses rather than telling you just that. You deserve better anyways...
find something else to focus ur energies on and forget this guy...
if it's meant to be, it will...but not if u act all pathetic and desperate...
have a backbone...

ps. all this is really comming from a caring place....even if it sounds a bit harsh..